- Analyse, but don’t dwell on, your past failures, and identify the lessons that you need to learn from these experiences. Failure and adversity are the greatest universities of life. It has been said that anyone who does not learn from his past mistakes is condemned to repeat them. Failure is not the end of the story. Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
- Forgive yourself. Sometimes it is easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves, but the same capacity to forgive others must allow us to forgive ourselves and to put the past behind us. A wise person said:
“Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future.” And forgiveness is a decision, not an emotion.
- Change your behavior. Two of the most important ideas I get from Albert Einstein are: (i) If you continue to do the same things and expect different results, that’s the definition of insanity, and (ii) The significant problems we face cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them. Ultimately what is really important is not what you think or what you say, it’s what you do.
- You can change the way you speak to people— use kinder words, be less critical.
- You can study more diligently, spend money more thoughtfully and save more consistently.
- If gambling wasted your money, quit gambling.
- If alcohol is restricting your potential, quit drinking.
- Seek help if you need to, but make the change.
- Set a goal. Goal setting can change your life and erase past failure by giving you astonishing success. But goal setting is different from wishful thinking. Goal setting has to be specific, written down, carry time horizons and be evaluated regularly. If, for example, you would like to be financially independent or wealthy in five years, it is a waste of time merely to say, “I want to be rich”. Instead, write down the exact amount of money you intend to have by 4:00 p.m. Wednesday December 31, 2017. Then write down the goods and services you intend to exchange for this money, for there is no free lunch. Find out the people who can help you, the obstacles you will have to hurdle and the hours you will have to spend to accumulate this sum of money.
- Invest your money. When you have surplus money, decide where you can invest it so that when you are not working it will be working for you. If your investments do not keep up with inflation, you are on a financial treadmill. Wealthy people find ways to invest their money so that their returns exceed inflation.
Finally, rule out failure. Regardless of your past, get past it by a powerful mental decision that you should affirm aloud daily, “I will not fail, but succeed at this venture.” Specify the venture, believe you will achieve it and act as if it is a done deal.
Learn more from the book: The Courage to Conquer, available on Amazon.
Tony Williamson is a motivational speaker and author of the book, "The Courage to Conquer: 9 Inspiring Strategies to Be Bold, Overcome Obstacles & Forge Your Fantastic Future!" For more information please visit www.tonywilliamson.org and on Facebook: www.facebook.com/tonywilliamsonbooks. Email: email@example.com